This sentence was the subject of a spirited song from the earlier days of rock and roll by a singer who called himself, The Big Bopper. It was named “Chantilly Lace”. In the song, the Big Bopper (Jay Perry Richardson) describes in this baritone voice how his young girlfriend walks and speaks and dresses and how much her childish actions please him and make him act giddy. The words of the melody are really wild. He says, “Ain’t nothin’ in the world like a big-eyed girl to make me act so funny, make me spend my money, make me feel real loose, like a long-neck goose, like a girl. Oh baby, that’s what I like!”
I had not ever been made aware of chantilly lace but it really appeared to turn this guy on. It makes one wonder why human beings love the things they love. My brother often repeats this Latin expression from ancient times, “de gustibus non est disputandum”. It translates into, “in matters of taste there is no accounting.” After all these many years, isn’t that the truth and isn’t it a mysterious reality?
Did you ever find somebody to be very alluring to you and, for the life of you, you can not figure out the reason? Perhaps they were not beautiful in the classical way (combination of attributes, silky skin, etc.) but you still found them deeply pretty.
On the other hand, have you ever seen the finalists in a beauty contest and not found any of them to be particularly appealing? The wonderful news is, we don’t have to give reasons for why we like a thing or do not like it. It’s merely a matter of taste and doesn’t have to live up to anybody else’s expectations.
Here’s another interesting truth; knowing what you like is a large part of being aware of who you are. If you share all the things you enjoy with others, you are permitting others to get to know you. It additionally allows them to know how to satisfy you, should they ever feel like doing so. They might give you what you like one day. Do not fret over whether what you like is not what others will like. As long as you do not assert that what you like is correct or better than what others like, nobody will have a problem with accepting what your tastes are. Discovering what you love and expressing that to other people has another benefit. It makes you feel happy.
That is one of the reasons why I like the Big Bopper’s song. It makes me smile. He so shamelessly KNEW what he liked and he did not mind reiterating it three times in the song!
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